We all want to be the best mothers possible. We worry about how our words and actions affect the small, developing minds and bodies of our children. Our children are much more in tune with our emotions (no matter how much we try to hide them) than we give them credit for. They might not understand the circumstances but a child can tell when mom is upset.
I wanted to write today about mothering with a heart of peace.
I'm sure we've all had experience with days where we were mothering with anything BUT a heart of peace. Worries, anger, unkind thoughts and feelings, anxiety and guilt can all take up valuable space in our minds and even decrease the number of productive minutes in our day.
I remember when Rob was looking for a job at the end of dental school. The anxiety of the job search had me on the computer all the time, looking for jobs, researching cities and towns, looking at homes and so forth. I don't remember many specifics about that time except for THE SEARCH, but I'm sure my mothering suffered. How could it not? I was no longer living in the present, and that is what a peaceful heart allows you to do.
Mommy Guilt - As mothers, we are often too hard on ourselves. Sometimes though, we feel bad because we know we could do better. If you are feeling bad about your mothering get off the blogs, get off facebook and pinterest, and spend some good face time with the real, flesh and blood people in your life. If there is something specific in your mothering, read some books on that subject. Wise use of time and a sincere effort to always learn and improve will leave us with a feeling of peace about our motherhood.
Sometimes just having children in our house makes us feel like our home is anything but peaceful. However, your heart still can be. For the little things that come up every day, turn on some peaceful music, go on a walk, take some deep breaths, smile, pray and be grateful. Carve out some peaceful time for yourself everyday, perhaps in the morning before everyone else is awake. You can use this time to pray, read, meditate, plan out your day, watch the sunrise, or dream about the future.
I hope we will all do what it takes to mother with a heart of peace.